When is the last time you felt really bad about yourself? Is there a specific self-attribute that you hate the most? Do you lack self-confidence when relating to other people? If you answered yes to my last two questions, then you are showing signs of being insecure.
Whether we admit it or not, we all have our own insecurities in life—some may be little, some may be big—but it exists in our personalities as humans. In fact, insecurity is one of the worst things that you can feel. While a little insecurity in life is okay, too much of it can negatively affect your life. That being said, how can you overcome insecurity and achieve self-belief instead?
1. Fill your mind with positive thoughts.
Negativity is the main culprit behind your insecurities. They pop up like pimples—it suddenly appears in the morning but takes a while to go away, and sometimes leaves ugly marks on your skin. And like pimples too, picking at your negative thoughts to make them go instantly away only makes it worse. Mindfulness teaches you how to make use of your thoughts to improve yourself and not focus on your insecurities.
2. Hang out with people who help you grow.
Being around people who build you up as a person is important for you to overcome insecurity and achieve self-belief. Knowing that you are being appreciated gives you a sense of self-worth which plays a vital role in your personal development. People who always complain, vent out, and talk about nothing but gossip are a bad influence and only pass on their insecurities to you. Come to think of it, there is a truth behind the quote “Tell me who your friends are and I’ll tell you who you are.” It’s a different story though if the bad vibes are from a member of your family. You can’t necessarily choose who your family are or whether to spend time with them. Talk it out with the person, especially if the person is your partner (I feel you!).
3. Do something productive.
Most of your insecurities and other negative emotions turn up when you have nothing better to do than think. Why not do yourself a favor by doing something productive that would develop you as a person? Live a lifestyle of personal growth! Physical, therapeutic and leadership programs will help a lot in gaining self-belief. Rather than wasting your time focusing on the things you don’t like about yourself, spend more time learning and discovering reasons to love yourself more.
Insecurities won’t go away if you allow yourself to focus on them and letting yourself become consumed by this kind of negative emotion won’t do you any good or help you to achieve your goals. Focus your eyes on the goal, not on the obstacles.
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